Some people will try to understand how you feel – and others won’t have a clue – even though they think they do. Irritatingly, these are probably the people who’ll tell you that they understand exactly what you are feeling. No-one will be able to understand exactly how you feel – because your feelings are unique to you, however, those who care about you will try to understand. You may feel at times that you don’t even understand yourself. Your reactions and emotions may be all over the place and you might not recognise the person you were before the death.